Won’t it be a very funny thing if you were worth just as much as the amount of cash in your pocket right now? Well that’s if you –like me- have just GHC1 and some change in your pocket. But if it was even a cheque significant enough to pay a month’s salary of a 100 Ghanaian policemen (no disrespect intended) i.e. Ghc15,000 (10 laptops only!), still it won’t be anything worth boiling an egg over. O and it will be even funnier if you’re a ‘credit carder’, because the way I see it, the credit card is just another way of letting you know how much in debt you are allowed to be  whilst spending other people’s money till you can do small susu to be able to pay back.

Fortunately however, our worth isn’t so much in how many zeroes we have on our bank statements as it is in how we perceive ourselves to be and how much respect we accord our own selves. Now this should have meant that we’d all have a 13-digit number on our ‘worth tags’ (since its us who determine our worth anyways), but I find it unfortunately funny that when it comes to really according ourselves the prestige and worth we deserve…we fumble and fall-short of the task. Because I’ve seen a million dollar lady allow herself to be treated like something from a penny store. Several several people take trash from everywhere because they’re afraid to even think they deserve more….afraid to join the school of aim highs, afraid to be what they reeeeaaalllllyyy are supposed to be; HEIRS! Such fear is equal to being afraid to say your name out loud, I can’t even imagine how little meaning there’ll be to life if I couldn’t tell you -or anyone else for that matter- that my name’s Anyan.

It’s unfortunate that so many people think that their candles would shine brighter if the other guy’s candle was off, that they’ll be richer if the other guy’s broke, that by suppressing another person and making him/or her dependent we assert our power and authority. But like my pastor said in church one fine Sunday morning; “there’s too much space in the sky for two birds to collide as they fly.” i.e. You can be whatever you wanted to be, make as many millions as you’ll like, attain the greatest heights known to mankind without being A PAIN IN SOMEONE’S NECK, seriously!!!!

When we come to terms with the fact that we aren’t defined by the comments or impressions of the human beings who we go out of our way to unnecessarily impress, we become liberated from the 1 main factor that makes us veerry vulnerable and usually unfulfilled. For verily verily I say unto you, (lol, I just couldn’t resist the urge to use that phrase that paints a learned-rabbi picture of me in your mind) if two men walk, one with a million $ in his pocket, but a low self esteem within, and the other with GHC 1 in his pocket but with such an infectious positive attitude and high self esteem, the latter will be less prone to suicide and will in fact be WEALTHIER than the former.

I don’t know rocket science, and if we had a conversation about quantum physics, you’ll find it’s like speaking English to a middle-aged Chinese entrepreneur (enthusiastic, but ABSOLUTELY incapable of comprehension), but I know a couple approaches that can help you feel better about yourself.

 Have a beautiful picture of a tomorrow you earnestly desire in your mind…and live like it was now! Walk like you were wearing a size 8, sing like you had your own record label, talk like the whole world needed your opinion first (make sure to sound same), make and pursue your corporate goals and ambitions like global security and advancement depends on it, refuse every negative thought…unless it’s a constructive criticism. Treat yourself like you desire a banker to treat your bank statement 10 years from now, find something that magnifies your strengths and virtues to be passionate about. And try, try earnestly to improve every facet of your being…that’s the key to being indispensible, because in this world we live in THERE’S AALLWWAAYYSS ROOM FOR AN ASSET!

What’s the worst that’s gonna happen right now if you decide to turn and walk away…from that thought that you don’t deserve more…from that habit that degrades you from within…from that person, OOOHH that PEERRSSOONN who treats u in such a way that even dirt seems more prestigious! What will it cost you if you decide -based on some realistic plan- to loss that extra weight if its departure will return some self-confidence?

So for the last time dearest friend, take a good look at that degrading mentality, at that extra flabby weight, at that progress-retarding ‘friend’…and walk away. Leave a note if you may, but don’t stay! And the shortest cut I know about is a prayer away.

P. Picasso said once; “When I was a child my mother said to me, ‘If you become a soldier, you’ll be a general. If you become a monk, you’ll be the pope.’ Instead I became a painter and wound up as Picasso.”
— Pablo Picasso

 I’ld LOVE to see what you’ll wind up as.